Imagine an über-homophobe. He doesn’t just hate homosexuals and avoids homosexual activity himself — the very idea of other people engaging in homosexual acts makes him sick with repulsion and fury.
He may not describe his attitudes in terms of hate. He may prefer to express it as a sort of “love”, perhaps as a virtuous reverence for heterosexuality. “My heart is with heterosexuality”, he may say.
Whether or not we accept his euphemistic spin on it, to say he has “strong feelings” is to understate the case. He has a super-strong urge to prevent homosexuals “doing whatever they do”. The reality of everyday homosexual acts routinely sends him into a towering rage, or reduces him to bouts of uncontrollable weeping. He is “offended” to a degree that’s “off the scale of offence”.
Question: Should homosexuals curb their sexual activity to spare this unfortunate man’s feelings? Should efforts be made to prevent him taking such immeasurably deep offence?
Answer: Of course not. Not by an inch. Not by the tiniest fraction of a millimetre. An adult’s freedom to engage in sexual acts with other consenting adults trumps anyone else’s urge to prevent him engaging in such acts.
However pathetically our über-homophobe may try to paint himself as the “victim” of other people’s “offensiveness”, the unalterable fact is that he wants power over others rather than freedom from others. His complaint amounts to an illegitimate claim to control their behaviour.
Freedom (and the legal rights that protect it) is more important than any ability to direct other people’s behaviour. Freedom trumps power: the choices people make for themselves always count for more than “feelings” and urges others may have to overrule those choices. “Feelings” and “offence” may be important between members of a family, but they count for nothing in the political sphere.
To pander to this unfortunate fellow’s aversion would certainly harm those whose freedoms it restricts. But it would probably harm him as well. Homosexuality isn’t going to go away, and he may as well just get used to that fact. Sooner or later he is bound to run into it, to his further chagrin. It may well be salutary — like immunisation — to deliberately offend him.
The same applies to other forms of giving and taking “offence” and “hurting people’s feelings”. In particular, it applies to Muslim “offence” taken at cartoons. Personally, I suspect it’s mostly faked: I’d guess many Muslims don’t give a rat’s ass about “insults to the Prophet”, and are simply itching for confrontation with Western people and Western values. But even if their “feelings” are entirely genuine, they still don’t count. No one’s “feelings” count when we’re talking about freedom.